Community
guidelines.
Short, and mostly about not making anyone justify their own family. Everyone who registers for an event agrees to these.
rules so nobody has to be brave to show up
Everyone arrives from somewhere different
- Respect that people have different relationships to adoption and to Korea.
- Do not assume all DoKADs feel the same way about any of it.
- Do not question whether someone is “Korean enough.”
- Let people take part without having all the language or all the answers.
Family history is nobody’s to demand
- Do not pressure anyone to share personal family history.
- Protect information about birth family, adoption records, and family relationships.
- Do not share another person’s story outside the group without their consent.
- Avoid speaking on behalf of adoptees or on behalf of other DoKADs.
Consent in the room
- Ask permission before photographing or identifying attendees.
- Respect names, pronouns, family structures, and racial identities.
- Check before bringing someone who was not invited to a closed gathering.
Room for all of it
- Make room for joy, uncertainty, grief, humour, curiosity, and disagreement.
- You do not have to be sad here, and you do not have to be fine here.
- Address harm directly, without public shaming or harassment.
Nobody here has to prove they belong.
Section 05. If something goes wrong
Harm gets addressed directly and privately first. That means talking to the people involved, being specific about what happened, and agreeing what changes — not a public pile-on, and not pretending it did not happen.
Organisers can ask someone to step back from a gathering. Repeated or serious harm means being asked not to come back.
If you are the person who was harmed, you decide how much you want to be involved in sorting it out. Reporting something does not commit you to a process.
At registration
This box appears on every event registration form and on the join form. It is the only mandatory tick on either.